My wife agreed to us having sex last Friday night but I still booked to see a girl on the Saturday. I am 35 and have always had a high sex drive. My wife is 33 but not very interested in sex. She went right off it for a while after each of our children was born.
Don't treat foreplay like a quick pre-sex requirement.
Everyone wants sex, but no one's talking dirty. Dig deep into the sexual psyches of thousands of men and women around the country, as we did, and this little irony stands out. Lack of communication—not lack of interest—is the top bedroom complaint for men. For women, it ranks second, just behind too-short foreplay. That's why we brought both sides to the table for a sex summit hoping, of course, that it'd end with both sides on the table. With the help of Cosmopolitan magazine, we asked 6, men and women to tell us everything—what they like, what they hate, what they've done, what they're dying to try. The results were as surprising—men and women want sex equally often—as they were enticing: Most women want to experiment and are just waiting for you to ask.
Foreplay—the tantalizing, PLAYful activities that people engage in beFORE sex, hence the name—is commonly accepted as something that should happen before intercourse. The questions of whether it does happen, how long it typically lasts, and what people are actually doing , foreplay-wise, are another story. While the study doesn't prove that heterosexual women aren't getting enough foreplay, it does suggest that lavishing your partners with lots of it adds up to more fun in the bedroom. Here, two experts share their best foreplay tips for a much more satisfying sexual encounter. If you spend a few cursory minutes on foreplay, rushing through like it's a plate of raw vegetables to nibble at before the meaty main course is served, your partner won't just feel cheated—they'll be able to tell you're not into it, which is a libido killer. Layla Martin, sex expert and author of Wild Woman in the Bedroom , says the best kind of foreplay puts the emphasis on "play," setting aside intercourse as the goal. Paying your sexual partner sincere compliments will let you know how much you appreciate her, and that might make her feel sexier before your clothes even hit the floor. Martin suggests "telling her how much you desire her," and how beautiful she is. Knowing that you don't just want to have sex, you want to have sex with her is a turn-on for many women don't you enjoy feeling desired, too? Have a hard time finding your words?
Sex is a fantastic thing — for both men and women. But unfortunately, many women find themselves dissatisfied with their sex lives for one reason or another. And sometimes…the sex is just too vanilla. The girl walks away lamenting the fact that the guy was unable to truly take control of the situation and give her an unforgettable experience. So how do you put yourself in the position to have wild sex with pretty girls? And what do you do once you get there?